Paul Newman has died at age 83. What an icon in the movie star industry. He was not only a fabulous movie star, he was a distinguised business man who donated millions of dollars. He started a salad dressing business and gave the profits to many worthwhile causes especially involving children in need.
When I was a young girl, I saw every Paul Newman move there was at the movies, there were no dvds or videos then. Now I intend to buy some dvd's of his old movies, all of which were extremely wonderful
He had an old fashion marriage to his wife Joanne Woodward and they were the parents of three daughters and he had three children from a former marriage. Unfortunately, his only son died many years ago giving him the ultimate tragedy of a parent losing a child.
His movies were interesting and diverse and he could play any part with gusto and imagination and terrific timing.
His marriage was not a Hollywood marriage of divorce, intrigue, cheating or anything of that sort. They had a fine and dear marriage and each respected the other for their talents and their love of family.
Paul Newman will be remembered fondly by everyone who ever saw a movie he starred in and of the people whose lives he touched with his generous endeavors.
Elita S. Clayman
Pikesville, Maryland
Saturday, September 27, 2008
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Wiped His Tear
Ethan age three years and one and half months goes to pre-school which used to be called nursery school when his father went there. He has been there for the third time yesterday and on the first day he had a tear or two when Mommy left. The teacher told my daughter-in-law to go in the hallway and they would see what would happen. She did and she saw he was fine and she left and when she picked him up three hours later, he was happy to see her and had had a good time.
Yesterday his daddy dropped him off and Ethan saw a classmate with tears and his nose was running. So darling and sweet Ethan got a Kleenex and wiped the running nose to comfort his friend. The teacher told my son that was the sweetest thing she ever saw in a young child like that. She has been teaching for over twenty years pre-schoolers.
Ethan shows already at his young age the compassion and kindness that I taught my children and that his parents are teaching him. Of course, all grandparents think their grandchildren are smart, articulate, beautiful and kind. I know for a fact that my three grandsons are all of that and more and Ethan who is the youngest grandson exhibited it yesterday. Ava his one year old sister will be doing the same when her time comes for school and social contacts.
Grandparenting is different than parenting because we are so much older and we can stand aside and absorb the wonderful light that shines upon us because of who we are now in this later senior life and be proud of the excellent mission we have accomplished. Elita Sohmer Clayman
Yesterday his daddy dropped him off and Ethan saw a classmate with tears and his nose was running. So darling and sweet Ethan got a Kleenex and wiped the running nose to comfort his friend. The teacher told my son that was the sweetest thing she ever saw in a young child like that. She has been teaching for over twenty years pre-schoolers.
Ethan shows already at his young age the compassion and kindness that I taught my children and that his parents are teaching him. Of course, all grandparents think their grandchildren are smart, articulate, beautiful and kind. I know for a fact that my three grandsons are all of that and more and Ethan who is the youngest grandson exhibited it yesterday. Ava his one year old sister will be doing the same when her time comes for school and social contacts.
Grandparenting is different than parenting because we are so much older and we can stand aside and absorb the wonderful light that shines upon us because of who we are now in this later senior life and be proud of the excellent mission we have accomplished. Elita Sohmer Clayman
Sunday, September 14, 2008
The Autumn Leaves
Today is the 14th of September, a week a way from first day of autumn. You know the autumn leaves are falling all over my property and we have no trees. We have the neighbor's many trees and their leaves do not know that it is improper to mess up another person's property. They fall and seem to realize that they must go to their left to come on my little piece of land so my husband has to rake their leaves and they close their eyes to the swaying of their leaves.
We cut down all our own trees many years ago to eliminate all this raking and bagging and etc.
One neighbor has a tree that the squirrels love and they climb it and must get some nuts and make a mess. He once in a while will clean it up and grudgingly comes over and cleans some of his mess in front of my house.
There should be a law to fine people whose leaves mess up a neighbor's nice and clean lawn.
Only kidding, but really is a good idea that will never make it attached to another law on the records like our congressmen like to do.
I had a professor once who was a psychiatric doctor in a medium size mental (which was privately) owned hospital. The director loved to give the doctors lots of paper work (long before computers) to write on this and that and that and this. This doctor, my friend knew that the head director never even read them, he was giving them busy work even though they were too busy already. One day Dr. L. played a joke on him. He handed in a ten page report and wrote only his thoughts on the first two pages. The last eight pages were blank.
He received a glowing and appreciative report saying that his work was good and had established a good opinion. He laughed because only the first two pages were anything pertaining to the opinions sought and the last eight could be used for scrap paper.
Do you think our congressmen really read and know what is in the bills they present and who adds on to what about anything?
I laugh when I hear the money being spent in Iraq and the billion offered to Georgia ( not the state in the USA) and they take an innocent old senior like me and send her a letter telling her her drug coverage premium will be raised two dollars and ten cents a month because she is being punished. Punished for not signing up for it the first year and so she is being penalized two dollars a month for her naughtiness. Ha. So they get me for over 25 dollars a year because I am a bad person. Multiply this by thousands or millions and this will help to pay for some of the money being sent and misused in Iraq and other places.
Maybe the congressmen need to have a thing like spell check at the end of each bill submitted and this will tell them things have been added on erroneously. I called the drug plan place which was really part of Blue Cross Carefirst and the lady at the other end said " really, this is interesting, I will tell my superior." I said forget it because probably another ten page report will be written and the first two will be about my complaint and the last eight will be blank. Ha.
We cut down all our own trees many years ago to eliminate all this raking and bagging and etc.
One neighbor has a tree that the squirrels love and they climb it and must get some nuts and make a mess. He once in a while will clean it up and grudgingly comes over and cleans some of his mess in front of my house.
There should be a law to fine people whose leaves mess up a neighbor's nice and clean lawn.
Only kidding, but really is a good idea that will never make it attached to another law on the records like our congressmen like to do.
I had a professor once who was a psychiatric doctor in a medium size mental (which was privately) owned hospital. The director loved to give the doctors lots of paper work (long before computers) to write on this and that and that and this. This doctor, my friend knew that the head director never even read them, he was giving them busy work even though they were too busy already. One day Dr. L. played a joke on him. He handed in a ten page report and wrote only his thoughts on the first two pages. The last eight pages were blank.
He received a glowing and appreciative report saying that his work was good and had established a good opinion. He laughed because only the first two pages were anything pertaining to the opinions sought and the last eight could be used for scrap paper.
Do you think our congressmen really read and know what is in the bills they present and who adds on to what about anything?
I laugh when I hear the money being spent in Iraq and the billion offered to Georgia ( not the state in the USA) and they take an innocent old senior like me and send her a letter telling her her drug coverage premium will be raised two dollars and ten cents a month because she is being punished. Punished for not signing up for it the first year and so she is being penalized two dollars a month for her naughtiness. Ha. So they get me for over 25 dollars a year because I am a bad person. Multiply this by thousands or millions and this will help to pay for some of the money being sent and misused in Iraq and other places.
Maybe the congressmen need to have a thing like spell check at the end of each bill submitted and this will tell them things have been added on erroneously. I called the drug plan place which was really part of Blue Cross Carefirst and the lady at the other end said " really, this is interesting, I will tell my superior." I said forget it because probably another ten page report will be written and the first two will be about my complaint and the last eight will be blank. Ha.
Sunday, September 7, 2008
Words
Have you ever thought how words can hurt and soothe? My mom always taught me that if you could not say anything nice, keep quiet. I have tried that in my lifetime. I notice that others do not even attempt to do that.
I have a friend who emails her daughters daily. She always signs it with love from your mom.
The one daughter responds most of the time to her mom with love.That is fine and makes my friend feel all warm and secure. The second daughter Ana once in a while responds love and when she does not , my friend feels slighted. I always tell her maybe the daughter forgot or maybe she is not in the mood for the love word or maybe she does not feel comfortable using the word too often.
My friend Stella gets very insulted and hurt when the number two daughter leaves off the word love. I feel like I wanted to tell Stella that perhaps at this age she does not need her daughter's approval by her using the word love. She should feel secure she did a good job raising them and her two sons especially since her husband passed away when they were teenagers and that in itself is the personification of love. Taking care, loving, giving and being there is what love is all about.
The second daughter who eliminates the word love and in her heart knows that her mom 'needs' this word used is lacking herself in her committment to her widowed mom. This is her fault and not Stella's fault. She should have confidence in her own soul that she did the best she could and needs not in her late senior years a vote of approval from this child who really is acting like a child when she knows her mom feels this way.
The press vilifies Sarah Palin that she cannot be a good mom and still be the vice president if she is elected with Mc Cain to do so. Working moms are doing the same type of jobs and running homes and being good moms and wives. They never ask the male candidates these same questions.
Sarah Palin knows in her heart she is and has been a good mom
I have a friend who emails her daughters daily. She always signs it with love from your mom.
The one daughter responds most of the time to her mom with love.That is fine and makes my friend feel all warm and secure. The second daughter Ana once in a while responds love and when she does not , my friend feels slighted. I always tell her maybe the daughter forgot or maybe she is not in the mood for the love word or maybe she does not feel comfortable using the word too often.
My friend Stella gets very insulted and hurt when the number two daughter leaves off the word love. I feel like I wanted to tell Stella that perhaps at this age she does not need her daughter's approval by her using the word love. She should feel secure she did a good job raising them and her two sons especially since her husband passed away when they were teenagers and that in itself is the personification of love. Taking care, loving, giving and being there is what love is all about.
The second daughter who eliminates the word love and in her heart knows that her mom 'needs' this word used is lacking herself in her committment to her widowed mom. This is her fault and not Stella's fault. She should have confidence in her own soul that she did the best she could and needs not in her late senior years a vote of approval from this child who really is acting like a child when she knows her mom feels this way.
The press vilifies Sarah Palin that she cannot be a good mom and still be the vice president if she is elected with Mc Cain to do so. Working moms are doing the same type of jobs and running homes and being good moms and wives. They never ask the male candidates these same questions.
Sarah Palin knows in her heart she is and has been a good mom
Wednesday, September 3, 2008
Peacemakers
I was cleaning out a drawer and found a piece of paper from when I went back to get a college education in 1968. My first professor for the one psychology class I was taking as my number one course was a Hungarian refugee who had come to this country from there and was and had been a psychiatrist in the old country.He now was doing that and supplementing his income by teaching psychology at a community college here.
I adored him the moment he opened his mouth to lecture and even though he had a Hungarian accent I was able to understand and comprehend his every thought. When the semester was over, I wrote him a complimentary note and gave it to him on the last day of school. From that moment on our families were friends and cared very much about each other. One day during that first class, I brought my almost three year old son to school with me because his pre-school called nursery school then was closed. He looked at my little boy and said "madam I do not think this the proper place today for a little one, we are talking today about sex and psychology." I told him that he would be good and if he was not, I would leave early.
He was excellent and sat and colored in his coloring book and played with the toys I had brought. He was quiet and respectful and at the end of the class he came up to say goodbye to the professor and at that moment he jumped into his outstretched arms and we have and had been friends from that moment on too.
He inspired me at age thirty-four which in those days was 'old' to go back to school and earn a degree to go forward and to learn and to enjoy the classes. I graduated five years later with honors and even was the president of the art club made up of fifty percent kids and the rest older students like myself.
We remained friends and at his funeral several years ago, I gave the eulogy about this wonderful human being. His name was Dr.Z.John Levay and he wrote a short book and gave me a copy one day. In it he wrote the following " To my Star Student Elita who has earned my sincere respect because she has found herself and who, as an adult became a child again:a Child of God, by virtue of being a peacemaker."
This man was my mentor and friend and I shall never forget him. He came to all our celebrations of life, my above mentioned son's confirmation, my daughter's too and my daughter's wedding . He was there for me when I became a student at a late age and his excellent encouragement of my educational needs and desires inspired me till this day.
So we all can be children of God and help to inspire and stimulate and motivate others to do things they thought they never could do even at a later age. I try to that in my ballroom dance columns on the internet and I have received letters from seniors that are up in age and have read my articles and are challenged to go out and ballroom dance and to learn and to have this wonderful hobby to be proud of. It can be anything that one takes up later in age and excells in.At age thirty-four I was 'old' then to be a college student. Now everyone is doing it via in person or online and the world is the better for it because educated and invigorated people are productive members of society.
Today my three year old grandson Ethan, son of the little boy mentioned above goes to pre-school for the first adventure in his schooling. Time flies and it seems as if it was yesterday and I was there in that college classroom with his father and the meeting of Dr.Levay.
On my first test which was an essay, I received a B which was quite good for being out of school for seventeen years. On the margin, Dr. Levay wrote"Mrs.Clayman, you can and will do better."
That line inspired me to go forth and to excell. That I did due to this professor's thoughts about what I could attain even at age thirty-four. He was what is called a real motivating educator.
I was so lucky to have him as my first professor after all those years. To encourage and to stimulate someone else is one of the finest attributes one can learn. I always revered him for that caring he showed to me.
Elita
I adored him the moment he opened his mouth to lecture and even though he had a Hungarian accent I was able to understand and comprehend his every thought. When the semester was over, I wrote him a complimentary note and gave it to him on the last day of school. From that moment on our families were friends and cared very much about each other. One day during that first class, I brought my almost three year old son to school with me because his pre-school called nursery school then was closed. He looked at my little boy and said "madam I do not think this the proper place today for a little one, we are talking today about sex and psychology." I told him that he would be good and if he was not, I would leave early.
He was excellent and sat and colored in his coloring book and played with the toys I had brought. He was quiet and respectful and at the end of the class he came up to say goodbye to the professor and at that moment he jumped into his outstretched arms and we have and had been friends from that moment on too.
He inspired me at age thirty-four which in those days was 'old' to go back to school and earn a degree to go forward and to learn and to enjoy the classes. I graduated five years later with honors and even was the president of the art club made up of fifty percent kids and the rest older students like myself.
We remained friends and at his funeral several years ago, I gave the eulogy about this wonderful human being. His name was Dr.Z.John Levay and he wrote a short book and gave me a copy one day. In it he wrote the following " To my Star Student Elita who has earned my sincere respect because she has found herself and who, as an adult became a child again:a Child of God, by virtue of being a peacemaker."
This man was my mentor and friend and I shall never forget him. He came to all our celebrations of life, my above mentioned son's confirmation, my daughter's too and my daughter's wedding . He was there for me when I became a student at a late age and his excellent encouragement of my educational needs and desires inspired me till this day.
So we all can be children of God and help to inspire and stimulate and motivate others to do things they thought they never could do even at a later age. I try to that in my ballroom dance columns on the internet and I have received letters from seniors that are up in age and have read my articles and are challenged to go out and ballroom dance and to learn and to have this wonderful hobby to be proud of. It can be anything that one takes up later in age and excells in.At age thirty-four I was 'old' then to be a college student. Now everyone is doing it via in person or online and the world is the better for it because educated and invigorated people are productive members of society.
Today my three year old grandson Ethan, son of the little boy mentioned above goes to pre-school for the first adventure in his schooling. Time flies and it seems as if it was yesterday and I was there in that college classroom with his father and the meeting of Dr.Levay.
On my first test which was an essay, I received a B which was quite good for being out of school for seventeen years. On the margin, Dr. Levay wrote"Mrs.Clayman, you can and will do better."
That line inspired me to go forth and to excell. That I did due to this professor's thoughts about what I could attain even at age thirty-four. He was what is called a real motivating educator.
I was so lucky to have him as my first professor after all those years. To encourage and to stimulate someone else is one of the finest attributes one can learn. I always revered him for that caring he showed to me.
Elita
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